Great column. I just re-did the Enneagram and learned I'm a one, so I can ID with avoiding emotional collapse and doing organize-my-space therapy instead. I don't want to let those traits go (even if I could), but want to become more conscious of how my one-ness can be either an asset or a liability, depending on my level of awareness of WTF I'm up to and why.
I love Tony Robbins, and if I had the money (and were 10 years younger), I'd do some of his intensive courses. As you may know, zen buddhism is my main path, and I'm grateful to have discovered the version of it taught and practiced by Doshin Nelson via Integral Zen.
As for others' rules, that remains a tough one. Have I ever written and published/posted something without concern for what others will think? Rarely (never). Do I act and dress and play without thinking of customs and social expectations. Not very often. This is a big thing for ones--learning to put down our burden, "a heavy and constant sense of personal obligation." (The Wisdom of the Enneagram). I'd add "unconscious" or "unchosen" before "personal obligation," because fulfilling obligations, living with integrity are fundamental to being a good human being. It's the background sense of never doing enough for others that saps my energy and joy.
I loved every moment of this - and really want cake now!
I have definitely been embracing the "if you hate it why do it?" attitude lately too!
Great column. I just re-did the Enneagram and learned I'm a one, so I can ID with avoiding emotional collapse and doing organize-my-space therapy instead. I don't want to let those traits go (even if I could), but want to become more conscious of how my one-ness can be either an asset or a liability, depending on my level of awareness of WTF I'm up to and why.
I love Tony Robbins, and if I had the money (and were 10 years younger), I'd do some of his intensive courses. As you may know, zen buddhism is my main path, and I'm grateful to have discovered the version of it taught and practiced by Doshin Nelson via Integral Zen.
As for others' rules, that remains a tough one. Have I ever written and published/posted something without concern for what others will think? Rarely (never). Do I act and dress and play without thinking of customs and social expectations. Not very often. This is a big thing for ones--learning to put down our burden, "a heavy and constant sense of personal obligation." (The Wisdom of the Enneagram). I'd add "unconscious" or "unchosen" before "personal obligation," because fulfilling obligations, living with integrity are fundamental to being a good human being. It's the background sense of never doing enough for others that saps my energy and joy.
I want to play more.